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Obviously, you know that once you and your spouse divorce, you will likely start dating other people and possibly even remarry. But this becoming a reality may be more difficult to accept than the mere idea of it. This may be especially hard if your spouse does not even wait until you receive your official divorce decree. Well, if you find yourself in this tough spot, please read on to discover what to do if your ex dates someone else during your divorce and how a seasoned Bergen County divorce attorney at McNerney & McAuliffe can help you cope during this emotionally challenging time.

What should I do if my ex dates someone else during our divorce?

A piece of advice that we can offer you, that you may apply across all areas of your divorce case, is not to let your emotions get the best of you and drive you toward rash decisions. For example, say you and your spouse agreed to attempt an uncontested divorce. Well, upon realizing that they are dating someone else, you should not react by taking your divorce case to court. Or, if your divorce is already litigated, you should not make it even more difficult to get through by fighting for unfair or unrealistic divorce terms out of spite.

Rather, you should worry about yourself and how to get a fair and just outcome at the end of your divorce process. Especially if you share a small child, you should not let your soon-to-be-former spouse’s dating life get in the way of a healthy co-parenting relationship. If anything, you should suggest attending couple’s counseling or family counseling sessions to help you two navigate this new dynamic.

When should my ex’s dating life be brought to the court’s attention?

To reiterate, you should not let your emotional response regarding your ex’s dating life prompt you to share it with the New Jersey family court handling your divorce case. It is rather likely that this will have little to no impact on its final decisions. However, there may be extenuating circumstances in which the court’s attention may be necessary. Namely, this is if you believe your ex’s dating is or will directly impact your divorce-related terms.

For example, you may have reason to believe that your soon-to-be-former spouse is using a significant chunk of your marital funds to support their new partner and their lifestyle. This may be whether they are paying for their housing, taking them on luxury vacations, giving them expensive gifts, or otherwise. Or, if your ex is living with their new partner, you may have valid concerns about your impending child custody arrangement. This is especially if you are worried that their new partner or their living space is unsafe for your child to be around.

To ensure you do not go through this critical yet complex process by yourself, please reach out to a competent Bergen County family law attorney. Our team at McNerney & McAuliffe is more than happy to serve you.

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